Today’s Self-Permission:
Permission to Not Know The Answer

In a world where not knowing is often equated with weaknesses or failure, we still find ourselves in the middle of life. Life, by its nature, is full of unknowns. Today, give yourself permission to not know the answer.

Perhaps you’re asked a question whose answer you don’t know. Or maybe you’re not yet sure which of several options you’ll take for lunch, vacation, your next job. Today, you get to relax a bit into being with that unknown while knowing you can make a decision or you can acquire the information when necessary. Not knowing is merely a state that typically comes before knowing.

So how will you give yourself permission to not know the answer? And what will you do with that permission?

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(Join your tribe on Facebook all month for a May full of giving yourself permission. I’ll post them here, too, but the real show is over on Facebook. (It’s a Facebook Event sponsored by Being Daring Coaching.) And that’s where you can best interact with your Tribe along the way.)

Today’s Self-Permission:
Permission to Say Yes

Yesterday’s saying no clears the way for today’s saying yes. Having said no to what you don’t want to give time and energy to, you’ve freed space for what you do want. Today, give yourself permission to say yes.

When you know what you want and the Sabo voice starts taking pot shots at it, asking incessantly, “why do you even like that?” you can let it go and stand by your yes. What’s been calling to you, waiting patiently for your yes while you’ve been noodling up the nerve to say it?

So how will you give yourself permission to say yes? And what will you do with that permission?

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(Join your tribe on Facebook all month for a May full of giving yourself permission. I’ll post them here, too, but the real show is over on Facebook. (It’s a Facebook Event sponsored by Being Daring Coaching.) And that’s where you can best interact with your Tribe along the way.)

Today’s Self-Permission:
Permission to Say No

Saying yes is a wonderful thing, if it’s what you mean to be saying. For lots of intentional people, though, yes can become a reflex that has them sign checks with their mouth that their time, energy, and will have no resources to cash. Today, give yourself permission to say no.

If your Yes today is not full-bodied, say no. If you’re utterly uninterested in the prospect, say no. If you haven’t the time, or would resentfully trade self-care time to do what’s asked, say no.

So how will you give yourself permission to say no? And what will you do with that permission?

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(Join your tribe on Facebook all month for a May full of giving yourself permission. I’ll post them here, too, but the real show is over on Facebook. (It’s a Facebook Event sponsored by Being Daring Coaching.) And that’s where you can best interact with your Tribe along the way.)

Today’s Self-Permission:
Permission to Celebrate

Sometimes a voice pops up and insists that celebrating is a waste of energy. It’s self-centered, it’s useless, and it’s just too expensive, claims the voice. But if successes are the bricks upon which we build confidence, then celebration is the mortar. Today, give yourself permission to celebrate.

If you always stare at your growing edge, you’ll forget that you’ve ever made progress. But by acknowledging your successes and lauding them as worthy of your own attention (and perhaps even that of others), you force yourself to take notice and you prove that your efforts are indeed yielding sweet fruit. Celebration is not the same as reward. Celebration is that full feeling of joy in accomplishment, for some it’s best marked by an outside token, a reward.

So how will you give yourself permission to celebrate? And what will you do with that permission?

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(Join your tribe on Facebook all month for a May full of giving yourself permission. I’ll post them here, too, but the real show is over on Facebook. (It’s a Facebook Event sponsored by Being Daring Coaching.) And that’s where you can best interact with your Tribe along the way.)

Today’s Self-Permission:
Permission to Ask for Help

Did you know you don’t need to wait for an emergency to ask for help? Yeah, you can ask for it because you want it, or because you think it’d be lovely to have help. Today, give yourself permission to ask for help.

For some, this help-asking relates to releasing perfectionism. For others, it means you get to not know it all or, heaven forbid, to actually learn something from someone else. Best of all, it means your shoulders needn’t sag under some burden of task or responsibility that could easily — and likely, joyfully — be shared.

So how will you give yourself permission to ask for help? And what will you do with that permission?

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(Join your tribe on Facebook all month for a May full of giving yourself permission. I’ll post them here, too, but the real show is over on Facebook. (It’s a Facebook Event sponsored by Being Daring Coaching.) And that’s where you can best interact with your Tribe along the way.)

Today’s Self-Permission:
Permission to Be Joyously Imperfect

You’re not perfect. Neither am I. But what if we take that for granted and celebrate it instead of berating ourselves for failing an impossible kind of perfection? Today, give yourself permission to be joyously imperfect.

This is not a celebration of mediocrity. Instead, it’s a celebration of the kind of perfect we already are: perfectly human. There’s no external rule that we can never make mistakes, never miss a goal or never need to stretch in how we’re showing up in the world. And there’s no rule that not perfect = not good. We get to be enough and to still strive to grow. What if you drop the heavy yoke of perfection?

So how will you give yourself permission to be joyously imperfect? And what will you do with that permission?

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(Join your tribe on Facebook all month for a May full of giving yourself permission. I’ll post them here, too, but the real show is over on Facebook. (It’s a Facebook Event sponsored by Being Daring Coaching.) And that’s where you can best interact with your Tribe along the way.)

Today’s Self-Permission:
Permission to Embrace the Gray

All or nothing. Black or white. Win or lose. These dichotomies reduce the world of apparent possibilities if we use them as the lens through which we see our options. Today, give yourself permission to embrace the gray.

Black and white thinking often provokes inaction by suggesting that only the worst case or best case could happen. From there, our natural aversion to loss focuses easily on the worst case. But in reality, there are innumerable permutations of outcomes, many of which have substantial positive elements. And if you’re faced with a choice that’s presented as black or white, give yourself permission to design the gray option that you’d most enjoy taking.

So how will you give yourself permission to embrace the gray? And what will you do with that permission?

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(Join your tribe on Facebook all month for a May full of giving yourself permission. I’ll post them here, too, but the real show is over on Facebook. (It’s a Facebook Event sponsored by Being Daring Coaching.) And that’s where you can best interact with your Tribe along the way.)