Snatching Defeat from the Jaws of Victory

Next time you talk about something that’s gone well for you, notice what language you use. In particular, if you’re trying to see more of your skills and assets, pay attention to see whether you shift frames depending on the outcome.

For example, maybe your story is that when things don’t turn out, it means you did something poorly, but if they do turn out, it means you’re lucky.

We’re all lucky sometimes and we’re all unskillful sometimes. Paying attention to how often that pattern shows up for you may reveal a key mechanism that undermines confidence: giving away your successes and only taking credit for your failures.

Once noticed, you get to decide if that’s the story you want to keep telling yourself.

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